A letter to my daughter on International Day of the Girl

Dear sweet baby girl,

I’ve wished for you my whole life. I’ve never been exactly sure about what I wanted to do in life but I have always known that I’ve wanted to be a mother. Your brother came well before I thought I was ready to have children but he’s opened my world to what a joy it is to be a mother. Then we decided he needed a sibling and from the moment we even started thinking about you we wanted you. We wanted a baby girl to love on and show us another side of childhood we might not have experienced yet. When we found out you were coming and that you were, in fact, the girl we had been wishing for, we were over the moon! We gush about you daily and daydream about what life will be like with you in it.

Today is International Day of the Girl, and it has me thinking a lot about all the things I want to teach you as you grow up. You don’t know this yet but being a girl and later a woman in this world isn’t easy. Thankfully for us, it’s much easier than it once was and my hope is that by the time you truly experience the world that things will be much different. Being yours and your brother’s mom is such a huge responsibility to me. I get to be the first one to help you learn everything you want to know about the world, even if it’s hard for me to explain sometimes.

You haven’t experienced this world yet but I want you to know right off the bat, you don’t belong to anyone. Yes, you are my daughter and you always will be but you are the controller of your yourself and your body. You should always do what makes you feel safe and happy.

You see I want you to know always know how strong you are, I never want you to doubt how smart you are, I want you to speak your mind even if it’s the unpopular opinion. I want you to know that you have all the opportunity in the world, you can be anything you want to be. You get to be the one who defines success in your life. Not me, not dad, not any of our family members, most certainly not the media and never tradition.

Be proud to be a girl and woman. Women are incredible. (Men are too and yes, we are all equal in this world. That doesn’t mean that we should celebrate being different and diverse.)

My daughter if you want to rule the corporate world, YOU CAN.

If you want to be a mom who stays at home and raises babies, YOU CAN.

If you want to travel the world to help those in need (take me with you), YOU CAN!

If you want to join the military and serve our country, YOU CAN.

If you want to be a writer on the NYT best-seller list, YOU CAN AND YOU WILL.

If you want to work in the stock market, YOU CAN!

Whatever it is that YOU want to do with your life, you can. If there is one thing I teach you in life I truly hope it’s that. I just want you to do whatever it is that lights a fire inside of you.

Always remember that labels do not define you. Not on your clothing nor the ones that people may place on you.

Please don’t worry about feeling under-estimated. Use that as power when you prove them wrong because I know you will.

Know that beauty is what YOU define it to be. NOT what the world, the media or anyone else for that matter tells you it is. As much as I know that you will be one of the most beautiful things in the world I want you to know that it’s what’s inside that truly matters. It’s your heart and your mind that can truly change the world.

A few other details I want you to know:

  • Crying doesn’t make you weak, it shows you care.
  • Kindness will always breed kindness.
  • Always rise above pettiness.
  • Forgive your enemies
  • Believe in miracles, from the wild out of this world ones to the small ones.
  • Always seek the positive.

Know that you are so so loved and that having you as my daughter will be one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. I can’t wait to watch you grow and learn all there is to learn about being a girl and a woman.

Love always,